#GIRLBOSS is someone who’s in charge of her own life. She gets what she wants because she works for it.”

GirlBoss “A #GIRLBOSS is someone who’s in charge of her own life. She gets what she wants because she works for it.” BAM! And those are the words straight from Sophia Amoruso, the ultimate #GIRLBOSS & #BADAZZ if you’d ask me.

I know I am really late on the bandwagon here with reading this book, but better late than never, am I right or am I right! This book has my mind going 100 mph, with all the Goals I want to Make into Successes. And I believe that was Sophia’s intent – to raise up an army of all the #GIRLBOSSES of the world. Now this book is a bit of a different read from “Lean In” & “You Can You Will”, both books I have read. What can I say I love books that are going to take me higher; empower me to be better.  Sophia’s story does not originate from being popular, or from being the head of her class, nor working at a fancy smanzy fashion corp. Her story originates from just using her inner creativity and a yearn  to do what she wants on her time, as she states in her book “It taught me that when I do things because I want to do them, and not because I have to, I can accomplish a lot.” If there was any face tagged to those inspirational quotes like just go for it – it would be Sophia’s #selfie. And might I say she’s super flawless in person and is quite transparent as she engages with her fans. I met her at the #FunFearlesLife Cosmo event (pictures below). She said she loved my style – I think I was high on life for about an hour after that, Ha!MeAndSophia

This book lit a fire under my ass to say the least.  It was always in my career plan to open up my own little boutique, and it still is. But now that the monster of the DOT COM is gaining as much momentum as brick and mortars, I can start small just as Sophia did. So therefore I will be opening an online shop on ebay just to sell my clothing and then as it picks up, my children’s clothing. I have such abundance and some things I only wore once and got over it, but that doesn’t mean it won’t look fab on you! Info to come soon on that. Below are the pointers from the #GIRLBOSS herself.



  • Be your own idol – The energy you’ll expend focusing no someone else’s life is better spent working on your own.
  • Abandon anything about your life and habits that might be holding you back. Learn to create your own opportunities.
  • It takes a special kind of stubbornness to succeed as an entrepreneur. And anyway, you don’t get what you don’t ask for. Be quick at moving from failures. Take nothing at face value. Fight for your ideas. There are secret opportunities hidden inside every failure.
  • You don’t get what you don’t ask for.



  • You get back what you put out, so you might as well think positively, focus on visualizing what you want instead of getting distracted by what you don’t want, and send the universe your good intentions so that it can send them right back.
  • _magical thinking is the alchemy that you can use to visualize and project yourself into the professional and personal life that you want.
  • You can’t convince someone else that you’re amazing and terrific if you don’t actually think you are.
  • This isn’t the false confidence that comes from getting a bunch of “likes” on your Instagram selfies, but a deep-down unshakeable self-confidence that persists even when things aren’t going all that great.
  • Surround yourself with people who are engaged, honest, and confident enough on their own quest to support you on yours.



  • What all of these jobs taught me is that you have to be willing to tolerate some shit you don’t like –at least for a while. This is what my parents’ generation would call “character building”, but I prefer to call it “#GIRLBOSS training.” But no matter what the details of the situation, how much you learn from it’s entirely up to you.
  • _you’ll soon find that the more you know what you want, the less you’re willing to put up with what you don’t. One of the best things about life – a reason not to go blindly after one goal and one goal only – is that sometimes you will take you to something that is way cooler than anything you would have consciously set out to do in the first place.
  • Don’t get so focused on one particular opportunity that you’re blind to other ones that come up.


  • The first piece of advice I can give you is to learn to separate your money from your emotions as much as you possibly can.
  • Spend money because it’s an investment in your own well-being, not because you’re bored and have nothing else to do.
  • Money looks better in the bank than on your feet
  • _money spells freedom.
  • If you learn to control your finances, you won’t find yourself stuck in jobs, places or relationships that you hate just because you can’t afford to go elsewhere.
  • _so start making smart decisions now to avoid paying for stupid ones later.
  • Take care of the small things so that the big things can happen much more easily.
  • Do not spend more money than you have.
  • Another big no-no is increasing your spending as soon as your income increases.
  • #GIRLBOSS, when your time spent making money is significantly greater than your time spent spending money, you will be amazed at how much you can save without even really thinking about it.
  • You can’t act like you’ve arrived when you’re only just receiving the invitation.
  • Treat your savings account like just another bill. It has to be paid every month, or there are consequences.
  • There is no dignity quite impressive, and no independence quite so important, as living within your means. – Calvin Coolidge

Starting Her Business & Keeping Her Business

  • Free Tools: Google, You tube and Looking at similar businesses. LinkedIn has made it easier than ever before to connect with people who can help you get ahead. Also, know how to get free marketing. Enter Social Media
  • Howard Stevenson’s – entrepreneurship is the pursuit of opportunity without regard to resources currently controlled.
  • Nasty Gal vintage was about more than just selling stuff, but this proved it: What we were really doing was helping girls to look and feel awesome before they left the house.
  • Know your customer and go my with your instinct, treat customers like they are your friends.
  • What made me more successful wasn’t necessarily what I sold, but how I sold it. I cared as much about the process as I did about the results.
  • The better approach is to tweak and grow, tweak and grow. I call it the incremental potential.

Rule # 1 – Just do a good job. Through the styling, photography, and the voice of the brand, Nasty Gal was an exciting place to shop but if our customers weren’t equally as stoked when they are holding one of our products in their hands, then that excitement lived and died on the internet.

Rule # 2 – Keep your promises. Customers become not only loyal, but also evangelical. It was the kind of natural word of mouth that can’t be bought.

Rule # 3 – Give your customers something to share – I work hard to create the best and most compelling images, words and content for our customers.

It’s the GENERATION OF THE #GIRLBOSS, let’s do it!

Learn to Be #Fearless to live a #FunLife @FunFearlessLife Event by Cosmopolitan Mag

First and foremost I just want to say how inspiring it was for me to attend this event. It was exactly what I needed and I am so excited to share this as my first post and with all of you readers at that!

But before we get to the nitty gritty of it all – please see my outfits for Day 1 & Day 2 below.

When I think of going on event that circulates on Women Empowerment – what comes to mind is the fact that I am most likely going to be around Strong Powerful Women and so I want to impose that I am serious through the clothing that I wear. I also thought to myself, well if I want the part I have to be the part. I chose two outfits that in my opinion gave me the confidence to stand among such pioneers and also spoke my confidence without having to say a word. As you will read below your fashion does speak before you even do and your stance also speaks volumes and so I, ever so humbly, held my head high and walked into the Lincoln Center feeling all kinds of Fabulousness.


Serious Monochrome – Blazer Dress @ Venus.com / B&W @ Enzo Angiolini / BriefCase Bag @ Target


Sweet Business – Pleather Skirt @ Boohoo.com / Plaid/Foral Blouse @ Bohohoo.com / Silver T-Straps @ Steve Madden

#PinUp Hair & MakeUp done by dear friend Margarita How To Instructions: youtube.com/user/sadieglam / @SadieGlam_ _ _ / SadieGlam24@gmail.com

The event was so much fun and had many perks by #Express & #Maybelline. You can find these pictures on my Instagram Page @DeeLovelyDiaries . Hit that Like button and any feedback is much appreciated. Thanks for reading dolls!

The event was spearheaded by #Cosmopolitan Magazine and was named the Fun Fearless Life Event. It was split into 5 sessions of different panels from all scopes of people who actually pushed through the Fear and are now living out their dreams despite any negatives and any hurdles that may have come their way.

Each session had a group of Panelists – below are the ones that spoke to me and my takeaways:

Sara Blakely – Creator of Spanx “Thank God for Cellulite”

  • It takes two things to be successful: Attitude & Drive
  • These are the only two things you have full control over. It is even more important than what school you went to, who you know, and how you look. If you have the right attitude and drive you will get where you need to be.

Julie Greenwald – President of Island Records, began her career in Def Jam Records

  • No job is too small or too big.
  • There is no punching clock when you are on your career path.

Sallie Krawcheck – Ellevate Network

  • Don’t waste your energy in feeling outnumbered by the number of men in your industry. Instead use it to your advantage and be strategic in a male dominated position.

Megyn Kelly – The Kelly Files on FOX News

  • Pay attention to your “A-HA” moment.

Dr. Meg Jay – Author of Defining the Decade: Why your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now

  • Make something out of your weak ties! A weak tie is someone you are not good friends with. 75% of your opportunities come from a contact that you don’t know well.
  • Look for those people who are different and distant because there are weaknesses in Strong Ties:Yes, they are the most supportive, your similarity with them breeds connection but you are limiting yourself, it is like you are locked in the same room together.
  • The time is now to network and move beyond your circle. Social networks narrow as you get older! Start connecting.

Amy Cuddy – Social Psychologist; Professor @ Harvard Business School

  • Body Language – yes it’s important beyond your instagram pictures!
  • How we pose says so much about ourselves and what message we want to put out there. Unfortunately off camera we forget about these poses but you must remember someone is always watching. You don’t want to be sluggish in an important job interview right so what does Amy Cuddy suggest? – Power Posing
  • Power Posing is a stance that makes you feel powerful. Superman, or in our case Wonder Women superhero pose comes to mind or the victory pose as we see many times in competitive arenas. She suggests power posing before interviews or even before tackling on your day. If you start you day off in a good mood, it makes you smile and then you remain in a good mood. Maybe this seems odd for you to randomly pose like this, even in your most private times, she also suggests standing up straight. Tiny tweaks such as this one can make the biggest changes.

Dick Costolo – CEO of Twitter

  • Keep it Authentic
  • You don’t have to worry about ones expectations!

Grace Helbig – You Tube Sensation – Creator of It’s Grace

  • Celebrate your imperfections
  • Do not think of what is popular for everyone else. Do it for you first.

Adam Rosante – Fitness Expert @ CosmoBody

  • Decide what you want, get a crystal clear goal, focus on that goal.
  • Work backwards to “reverse engineer” your success with small daily tasks.
  • These actionable small tasks ignites motivation for you to keep going.

Kelly Osborne – Creator of Stories Clothing Line

  • Learn to Love Yourself!
  • Living lives we think we should more than the way we want is not the way to live. You are settling by living by someone else’s rules.

Jillian Michaels – Author of Slim for Life

  • Find the middle ground between desperation and denial & overflow and bingeing.
  • Be informed. Knowledge empowers you.

MD Jennifer Ashton – Author of Your Body Beautiful

  • Your success starts from taking charge of your health and well-being.

Jason Silva – Host of Brain Games

  • Overcome limitations. Listen to your inner thoughts intuition.
  • Use Technology to extend your reach.

Alexa Von Tobel – Author of Financially Fearless

  • When asking for a raise at work it is important to show your boss your career path in three easy points:
  1. State your accomplishments
  2. Show what you are currently working on
  3. Ask to take on more responsibility

Joanna Coles – Editor-in-Chief of US Cosmopolitan Magazine

  • Encourages us to create our own brand and point of view through Social Media.
  • Keep your energy high.
  • When your on a job interview your goal is to reinforce the interviewer you can get the job done.

Elizabeth Crystal – Chief Marketing Officer @ Express

  • Dress for the Job you Want.
  • Be appropriate in every situation.
  • Own Your Look. Make it apart of your personality.
  • Your fashion speaks before you.

Nina Vaca – Creator of Pinnacle Group

  • Surround yourself with role models – You can’t be what you can’t see.

Gabrielle Bernstein – New York Times Best Selling Author; Founder of HerFuture.com

  • Do not be addicted to the pretense of “Fabulousness”.
  • Witness what is going on around you and take note of what you need to change. What is holding you back from your honest truth?
  • After you hold yourself accountable to change, focus on Joy.
  • Having Joy Increases Your Chances Of Success!

Now I am sure after having reading all of this, just as I felt after hearing all of this, that you are feeling Powerful & Fearless. The time is now! Lets start living our Fun Fearless Life!